Dr Goulston and Goldberg unmask deep-seated self-defeating behaviours rooted in our childhood experiences of being alone and defenceless. The underlying causes of self-defeating behaviours are explained with simple action tips to achieve the victory of impulse over awareness, immediate gratification over lasting satisfaction and relief over resolution. While it may not be easy to recognize or admit that we get in our own way, and harder still to take responsibility for getting out of our way, if we are smart, resolving life issues can be achieved with simple, yet powerful and proven strategies without visiting an expensive therapist! Powerful practical insights that can help many to live more rewarding lives This book provides practical, proven self-help steps that show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviours, like anger, guilt, procrastination, envy, obsession, rebellion, neediness and self-pity, with positive behavioural strategies to face difficult situations with dignity, wisdom, courage and even humour. Filled with pithy one liners-the key to success is tolerating boredom; people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care; everything competes for time, but no one should have to compete for importance-the narrative is lucid. It helps you acknowledge the problem and deal with it effectively with compassion, respect and empathy.